Today I saw my grandmother for the first time in several years. Just a few weeks ago, her daughters moved her from her home in Florida to a nursing home in Massachusetts near family.
My cousin and her husband brought Nana down to my Mom's for the family get-together on Saturday. I was nervous about seeing her knowing about her dementia.
After seeing my Nana today, I think differently about the common saying, "Live in the Moment". While I agree we need to appreciate where we are right now, I actually don't think I want to only live in the moment. My Nana cannot remember the questions she just asked 30 minutes ago. But at the same time, she can thoroughly enjoy the very second of where she is - laugh at a joke, drink some wine, enjoy a piece of cake. She will not remember tomorrow this day she shared with her family.
So really living in the moment doesn't seem to be the answer or at least I now have a different point of view about that common saying.
My present moment would not be the same if I didn't have the cognitive ability to interweave previous events with where I am right now. I wouldn't have precious memories. I might not feel refreshed from a day of peace and solitude because that time would not be remembered.
All of the past moments make up who I am today and I can use that knowledge to move forward to become more like the person I want to be tomorrow.